Flashback to Breastfeeding

September 30, 2007 - Sunday I am no earth mother So I have a 11 week old, as most of you know. I also have a 3 year old. With the 3 year old, I had a pretty hard time breastfeeding him. Difficult latch, unhappy momma, lots of reasons why it did not really work. So, I just pumped the milk with and gave it to him in a bottle. Not exactly natural, but at least he was getting the milk. With the second child, I was determined to breastfeed her the "right" way. I was going to take advantage of my natural, God-given ability. After 11 weeks, I have done very well. I am proud of my tenacity and that my nipples have held up. But, I would not exactly say I am the earth mother type. There are some real truths about breastfeeding that no one had ever told me. First, let me explain the pillow that I use to feed her. It is called (and I am not kidding) My Brest Friend (my bff). For those of you who do not know what it looks like- search it online to get a clear picture.You strap it around your waste and the baby lays on a kind of pillow table. It is probably the Brest thing ever invented. It puts the kid in the right position and holds the kid in place without much effort. Let's say she was feeding off the right one (feeding, sounds like a shark feeding frenzy). I could easily lay her across the pillow and use my right hand to hold the breast in place. The left hand is free to do whatever. My best friend used to be my body pillow, but this has moved into the first position. The only major problem with it is that it is not really practical to carry along with you and use in public. It is very big and barely fits in the carrier below the stroller. In trying to be the super earth mother that I thought I was, I thought "no big deal, I can just breastfeed in public without My Brest Friend." Well, I do not know how all these other women do it and have done it for millions of years, but Oh---My----God----, it is not easy. It is almost like the 3 stooges trying to feed a baby. It is a multifaceted task that really should require a couple of people. People, these are the things that no one else will tell you. First off, it forces me to feed her in a manner that is completely different than the way My Brest Friend and I do it. Again, as an example, lets say I was feeding her off the right breast. Even though I try to be super earth mother, I am NOT going to show my breasts in public! I know it is all natural and that is what they were made for, but I just do not think that people want to see that. So, I take a large blanket and throw it over my right shoulder. As I am holding her, I have to tuck the top of the blanket under my bra strap to hold it up. That way, when she thrashes around, which she always does when I try to do this in public, she does not pull the blanket down exposing my breasts. Without the pillow, I have to cradle her in the crook of my right arm. This in itself is quite a task. A 13 1/2 lb baby in the crook of your arm is not easy to hold. Then, I have to maneuver the squirming, crying, and anxious-to-eat child onto the nipple. Again, not easy. I have to expertly place the blanket around her head to create a kind of wall that allows me to her face, but at the same time prevent others from seeing my goods. Then, I have to try to get her mouth in the right spot on the nipple. For those of you unfamiliar with breastfeeding, you have to get the right "latch" or your nipples with crack and become raging fire balls. In fact, if your nipples get injured or you get clogged ducts in your breast from not drinking enough water- when that kid nurses you would think that someone was trying to saw your nipples off with the butter knife. Wow! You do not know pain until it feels like your kid is trying to gnaw your nipples off like a starving wolf. Back to the story- when a baby is hungry, they get very excited and move their face around trying to find the milk source. So, with my blanket placed, my right arm falling asleep, the baby squirming, and me trying to keep the public from seeing "my space", I take the left hand and try to guide my nipple into her mouth. Once I finally succeed, I have to keep my left hand inside the blanket tent to hold my breast away from her nose because their size and gravity force the breast over her nostrils. Beside all the other things that are happening in the public breast feeding fiasco, I do not want infant suffocation to be added. So, once she is on there, it is a constant battle to keep her on the nipple. She knows that this is not the way we usually do it and she does not like it any more than I do. On top of all this, my child, like many I am sure, is a very loud sucker. I could not discreetly breastfeed this child anywhere. My husband and I purposely choose to eat at loud restaurants to drown out the sound of my son screaming and sound of my super sucker. As soon as my baby and I get a rhythm going, she needs to be burped. So, I have to pluck her mouth off the nipple, pull my bra up, pull my shirt down, pull the blanket off, and then I can sit her up to burp. And, then the dance starts again when I put her back on. I forgot to mention, that on top of all of this, I have to try to keep the back of my shirt down so that no one can see my back fat. So how do these earth mothers do this? How do they just wip it out, sans blanket? They just don't care. I do not think the La Leche League will be call me anytime soon to be a spokesperson.

Down the Slippery Slope

May 27, 2007 - Sunday Down a slippery slope Category: Life Wherever my husband and I go, we always seem to be slowed down by his need to take care of his bodily functions. Me, I can hold a pee for hours and be fine. Only after about 3 hours of holding it and drinking a lot of fluids in the meantime does my need to pee ever become an emergency. With him, everytime is an emergency. No, it is not his prostate, this is how it has always been. So, after 14 years I should be used to it. But I am not. To top it all off, we have a toddler we are trying to potty train. So, the concern over peeing and pooping is at an even greater level than normal. Today we went on our normal Sunday outing to the library, only to find it was closed. We decided to go to the UT Tower because there is a fabulous pond behind it that is filled with turtles. I could not remember where to park to get there, so we parked by the stadium. I had forgotten that the stadium was about a half a mile from the Tower. No biggy, our son needed to burn off some energy. We parked and immediately my husband decided that he really needed to pee. My son and I walked around the Alumni Center courtyard looking at statues of Bevo, some horses, and a cowboy while my husband went to the souvaneir (?) shop to use the restroom. He came out and said they had no public restroom. I noticed that there was a memorial service going on in the Alumni Center, so I told him to go in. Heck, he was wearing a grey shirt, he could have easily been a mourner. My son and I discussed the makeup of the statues while he went inside. He came out again without finding a restroom. I knew what was coming next, my husband would have to pee outside. He rushed ahead of us and down a trail leading to a creek. Soon, he came back- a victor. I could see the relief on his face. He asked me if I saw him fall. I immediately started laughing and said no. As an aside, my husband has a really big problem with falling. He seems to fall all the time. Usually it is in the privacy of our own home as he goes up the stairs. In fact, tonight he almost ripped the end of his big toe off. How you lacerate your toe on stairs, I will never know. The last big fall was at my niece's birthday party when he tripped over a stake holding down a moonwalk. I missed the actual fall, but I heard that he bounced back up from the ground like he was on a trampoline. The family still talks about this. So, anyways, we are all on a bridge over the creek. My husband points out some old timey, rock stairs leading down to the creek. They were wet rain and mossy. He said he was going down the stairs and turned to see if anyone was around before he peed. He said as he turned, both of his feet slipped out from under him and he went airborne. He landed on his left butt cheek. He said it was like a cartoon fall. He showed me the back of his pants and they had nasty green moss stains on them. His hands were also covered in a green funk, like he was turning into the swamp thing. We walked up to one of the big water fountains on the UT campus so he could wash off a bit. So that was his story. Now for mine. My husband gets so irritated with me because whenever something happens to him, I embellish the story. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. So, I asked him if I could write my version as long as I told his version first. Here is how I see it: he walks down the mossy slippery stairs. He unzips his pants and starts to pee, when he decides he better look around to make sure no one is watching. As he turns, he falls like he described it above. He hands slips off of his, you know, and he can't stop the peeing as he falls. The pee is spraying everywhere and it like a fountain- getting his pants all wet and as he continues to fall the pee begins to spray onto his head. He finally lands and the pee has stopped. He is laying on his right side and slides down the slippery moss rocks a few feet. He is finally able to zip his pants and make his way back to his family. You can decide which version you think is true.

Crawfish and Urine

April 8, 2007 - Sunday This is quite possibly the funniest story I have read in years. I wish that I could take credit for this genius read This story, true story, was written by one of my very best friends here in Austin. Don't be discouraged by the length, it is worth the read. You will see why l like her so much.I was in the local grocery store the other day, shopping for all the things a middle-age semi-vegetarian white woman might shop for. I was leaving the seafood dept. after having bought some fresh non-farmed fish when I saw a display stand in the middle of the deptartment. It was filled with ice and what looked to be about 700 very cold and nearly frozen to death crawfish (seems crawfish boilin' season has arrived). They looked up at me (from what would surely be an icy death bed at some point) with their little black beady eyes and raised their tiny red pinchers towards me. It was as if they were saying "pick me, help me, save me, love me". I was their God. I immediately knew what I had to do. I got a plastic bag and tongs and proceeded to fill it up with crawfish. It was very heart-wrenching to decide which ones would have a chance at freedom and which ones would be left to face either a slow cold or very hot boiling death. I empathized with Meryl Streep in "Sophie's Choice" and knew how tough a choice she had to make. But it had to be done. Saving some was better than none. I chose the larger more active ones. I figured they would have a fighting chance once I released them into my neighborhood pond. Some trendy woman stopped and watched what I was doing. She said to me "I see you are picking out the larger and most alive ones. Are they the best for eating?" Shamefully I said "yes". Hoping that would be the end of the conversation. She then continued on to ask me how to cook the crawfish. I loathed myself as I found myself explaining how one concocts a "crawfish boil". There is a part of me new enough to this "not eating my fellow creatures that have been shot full of growth hormones and antibiotics and fed a non-natural diet thing" to where I could not bring myself to tell her I was buying these poor little bastards to set them free. I guess I didn't want to appear as some kooky tree hugger or militant vegan. So I lied. Finally she moved on.After filling the bag I took it to the seafood counter to be weighed and tagged for checkout. The associate was going to put ice in the bag and gave me a funny look when I vehemently refused it. I checked out and as soon as I got out of the store, tore some holes in the plastic bag so they could get some oxygen. I put the bag of "soon to be free" crawfish in the front seat of my car because it was sunny and would warm them up. I went back to the store to look at some rose bushes that were on display. When I got back to the car some of the more daring and active crawfish had made a break for it through the air holes in the plastic bag. Some were under the seat, some had even managed to wedge themselves into a pocket on the door where I keep CDs.Not having any tongs, I steeled myself to the task at hand. I knew a crawfish pinch wasn't that bad, but nonetheless I was going to avoid it if I could. I plucked them from the CD pocket and from under the seat. They fought me valiantly. I guess the warmth of the car had really invigorated them. I drove to the small pond in my Texas hill country subdivision to release them. It is about a 12 mile drive from the store. Somewhere along the way I felt I needed to pee. Not a big urge. Just that somewhere the brain is starting to think about it. I figured I would just wait until I got home, it wouldn't take long to release my little survivors. I got to the pond and took the plastic bag full of now very much alive crawfish and proceeded to strategically place them in the pond. I didn't want to dump them all in one place for fear none would survive if a predator found them quickly. So I walked up and down the bank kerplunking them here and there. Some really took off, scooting backwards into the depths of the pond. Others just kinda hung out where I had put them. They were free again. Free at last. Thank God Almighty, they were free at last. They were beautiful, the sun glistened down through the clear water illuminating their bright red shells against the calichi bottom of the pond. That is, except for one. As I walked up and down the shore of the pond admiring my handiwork and thinking, "my what a good person I am", I spied one little fellow on his back. Maybe he was the one idiot in the bunch. Because as we all know, there IS always one in a the crowd, isn't there? I watched to see if the idiot crawfish was going to be able to flip himself over. It was apparent he couldn't or wouldn't. I don't know which, because he wasn't saying. So I decided to step in and help him.We (the crawfish and I) had come this far, I wasn't about to let my immediate release survival rate drop to anything less than 100%.I had been to yoga earlier that day and was wearing some rather nice yellow Lance Armstrong special edition Nike flip-flops given to me by a friend. I really love these flip-flops and have taken great pains not to get them dirty. I usually just wear them to yoga or to work. Not out in the yard. I also had on some nice capri-length yoga pants as well, with loose legs.The upside-down crawfish was about two feet from the bank. I couldn't reach him leaning over the water. I couldn't find a stick to turn him over with. I had to step into the pond with a least one foot in order to reach him/her. The pond bottom looked pretty solid to me, not muddy; packed caliche like we find in the creeks and lakes in the hill country. After all, the crawfish had not sank into the pond bottom when I threw them in. How wrong I was.As soon as my foot hit the pond bottom, my foot, along with my special edition Lance Armstrong Nike flip-flop was sucked down into the mud about mid-way to my calf. At about the same time my foot hit the cold water and was being sucked down into the mud, I noticed I was beginning to pee. It was a small trickle. My urinary sphincter was trying to do it's God-given job. It just wasn't succeeding very well. I am a middle-aged white woman after all.I pressed on despite my two handicaps and flipped the crawfish over. It didn't move. It seemed content and bemused to stay and watch me try to extricate my foot and beloved flip-flop from the mud while peeing on myself. I pulled my foot free, but to my horror, the flip-flop wasn't on my foot. It had been sucked down into the muddy quagmire of the deceptive pond bottom. I couldn't see the hole where my foot had been because I had stirred up the mud getting my foot stuck and unstuck. Pee is still dribbling down my leg at this point. I gave up fighting the losing pee battle (double entendre). I sat on a rock, stuck both arms into the cold water to dig my Lance Armstrong special edition flip-flops out of the quicksand-like mire and let the urine flow. Like Kenny Rogers says, "You have to know when to hold 'em.....etc...."As I sat on the rock, pissing myself and blindly digging in the mud for the flip-flops I thought to myself, "was it worth it?" Was freeing those 20 or so little lives worth this private humiliation, not to mention the soiling of the flip-flop (and yoga pants)? And the answer is of course, "yes". I finally succeeded in getting the dirty filthy flip-flop out, finished peeing, picked up the empty smelly crawfish bag and walked back to my vehicle. Thank God I had some towels in my vehicle and that it was only a quarter-mile or so to my house. I got in the truck and the oddest mixture of smells surrounded me. One that most of us will (hopefully) never experience in a lifetime: the smell of crawfish and urine.

How did we not die?

Aug 4, 2009 My sister and I have commented to each other that we might be a little overprotective of our children. But, the longer I am a parent, am able to compare others' parenting styles to my own, and become more aware of my own mortality- the more I realize that we are actually probably as protective as any normal parent should be. We have begun to discuss how my father "parented" us, and it turns out we had many near death experiences under his care. My parents divorced when I was 7, so our summers after that were spent with him. We would leave my mom in about June and come back in August. Those were the dirtiest, hottest, and most unhealthy times I think we had all year! I drove past Paint Rock Road in North Austin today and it reminded me when my dad took Candace and I to Paint Rock, Texas. It is near San Angelo and probably 200 people live there. A river runs through and it had a rickety dam. We played in the river and had our fun jumping off of the dam. Candace did not jump out far enough one time and scraped her whole back down the dam. I would consider this a near death experience because she could have gotten a spinal cord or head injury. She said it hurt immensely, and I remember it looking bad. Dad just told her, "ahh, you're ok.!" Now, I say that to my kids when they really are ok, but I think that it warranted much more than that! I guess he was too busy drinking his Coors on the river bank with some other pwt that he befriended. Another time, we were at another lake and I was floating in an inner tube. I had my body through the middle and my legs down toward the bottom. I leaned over to paddle myself and flipped over and could not get my head out of the water. I was underwater for probably 20 seconds, about to drown, before someone pulled me up. But, rather than tell me not to do that again- what did it do? Did it again and almost drown again! My sister said that she almost drown, too in a lake, but thankfully my dad looked up at the right time and rescued her. And, my dad driving drunk with us all the time never ceases to amaze me. I cannot imagine what in his right mind made him think that it was ok to drink and drive with your children? Parents, watch your kids. Don't drink and drive with them. Do you want your kids, in their 30's, to look back and wonder how they survived in your care! Divorced parents, make sure you teach your kids what is acceptable behavior by the other parent and what is not! Make sure that they know- if something does not feel right or if you ALMOST DIE- that they need to tell you! It is tough growing up with one of your parents being a loser. My sisters and I are true survivors. I am going to start a foundation for people like us. Tell us your story, and you can join.

Lampasas Comes to Austin

Oct 16, 2009 This is an extra long note. If you don’t know my middle sister, Candace, you won’t think this is funny. If you do know her- you will be able to picture everything that is happening. She asked me to document our time on the phone yesterday. She had to take her daughter to the doctor here in Austin (red flag #1). Her daughter hurt her knee moving some furniture. I asked my sister whether they owned the little furniture mover thingies that you slide under the legs so even a frail granny could move them. She said no. I highly encouraged her to get some if she was going to force her sweet little daughter to do hard labor. So, I talked to her on Wednesday about this and she indicated that she was going to go through Marble Falls and up 71. Sounded good. Straight shot. I assumed she would mapquest it and be good to go. But, in the back of my mind, I had this feeling. I had this intuition. I felt like it was not going to work out so well. I just know Candace. She used to have trouble coming to my house when I lived up North and my house was 2 blocks off the road she would drive in on. She has lived in a small town for quite some time and has not had the opportunities to hone her big city drivin’ skills. So, I get this call from her at 1425 yesterday. She said, “Amanda, I needed to exit on 360 off 183, but I missed it. Those people would not let me over!!! Now I am on Mopac.” I instantly wanted to laugh, but I could hear the low level of panic simmering in her voice. So, I purposely started using a very calm voice. I said, “Candace, what part of Mopac are you on?” She said, (in a semi- high pitched voice), “Ummm, umm, Far West! I see Far West.” I said, “Ok, now tell me exactly where you were supposed to go?” Candace- “I just couldn’t get over! No one would let me over?!! Uhhh, I was supposed to go 360 to Bee Cave Road, left on Bee Cave, and then the office.” I said, “Don’t worry, you are not too far away, you have plenty of time to get there. 35 minutes is way more time than you need to get there. Keep going down Mopac, and exit 360. There is a right exit and a left exit, so you need to stay right (mistake #1) and go right. When you get on 360, you go a few miles until you see Bee Cave. Now, instead of taking a left like they told you- you need to go right. Because you are coming in from a different direction, go right. Real easy (red flag/mistake #2).” Candace- (breathing heavily, almost hyperventilating) “Ok. I think I need to call them and tell them I will be late.” Me- (almost yelling) “No! (yet remaining calm because I knew if she had ANYTHING else to distract her from the task, it would be disaster) You have time, don’t worry (WORRY!!! BE VERY WORRIED!)” I hung up the phone and continued folding one of 5 loads of clothes. It was 1435 when I hung up. My phone rang again at 1439. Guess who. The voice on the other end had an even higher pitch and she was speaking quickly, “Amanda, oh my God. Now I am on Cesar Chavez!! I was in the right lane (remember my mistake #1? Telling her to stay right?) and it was exit only and NO ONE would let me over! Why, oh why, won’t those people let me over!! What is wrong with them!!!!” Me-“ Candace. Candace!! Calm down (the normally jokey sister that would make fun of her at a moment’s notice had to leave the room. I could tell that panic attack/crap in her pants Candace was about to come out. I could feel the biggest laugh trying to burst from within me and I had to push it down. I was thinking that Candace should not be allowed to drive alone. But, then I realized that this was good experience for her and it was building up her skill base.) Ok, tell me if you see Lamar Boulevard. If you do, take a left on it.” Candace- “Ok, I’m, ummmm, I see it! (I could hear relief in her voice) Oh no! I can’t go right! (For Austinites that know, I forgot that you had to take the left and then right).” Now at this point I began to get the picture of how Candace looked in her car: She was sitting on the edge of her seat. Her back was straight and had not touched the seat since she missed the 360 exit. I imagine her gripping the steering wheel tightly and looking frantically back and forth (whether she needed to or not) for any sign of the way to go. I see her rocking back and forth, her teeth gritted, mouth slightly parted, and her eyes squinted. I can see her on the verge of panic as she had to drive with all the Austin people. By this time, Chelsi was awake (thank goodness, a calming force in the car. Someone else who could help navigate). Me- “oh, I forgot about that just keep going. You now need to look for first street. You see the lake beside you on the right, right?” Candace- “Yes (kind of tight squeal sound). What road??!!??” Me-“First Street.” (Time 1440) Candace- “I see San Antonio.” Me- “No, First Street and go right.” Candace-“ First Street! I see it! Which way? Which way?!!” Me- “Right (who gave this girl a driver’s license? Coach Mutschink?) You should be going over a bridge and look for a bat sculpture on the right and turn right.” Candace-“Water. Bridge. I see the bat!! I’m going right.” Me- “Now, keep going straight, you should see an Aussies and a Whataburger soon (mistake #3, forgot what road she got on.).” Candace-“No, no. Palmer Events Center. Palmer Events Center. Oh, I am going around a circle thing! (there is a weird traffic circle that is confusing to even Austinites. Great, I sent her down that road!)” Me- “it’s ok. Just go around the traffic circle (please pay attention to other cars so you don’t have a head on collision!!). You are going by Zilker Park. You should see a train track you will go under soon and get into the left lane. You can only go left or right, so go left.” Candace- (in a kind of dreamy voice) Oh, it’s a park. I see people over there! Train track! Oh my god, I am in the right lane!!! I can’t get over.” Me- “yes you can. Put on your blinker and try to get over.” Candace-“Hmm, no outlet.” Me-“Get in the left lane. You do not want to go into the Zach Scott Theater parking lot.” (time (1445). Candace-“Why won’t these people let me over?? (theme of the day. Note to self, teach Candace not to wait until the last minute to get over)” Me- “Just get over (and I wanted to yell that but calm, soothing sister was in charge).” Candace- “I got over! I am turning left!!!” Me- “Get into the right lane now and turn right on Barton Springs.” Candace-“I am turning.” Me- “Now go until you come to a big curve to the left and you will go under a big road. Which is Mopac. Now, when you get around the curve, pay close attention to the lanes and where it says you can turn. One is a turnaround, one is a left turn only, and another, you can go straight. GO STRAIGHT!!!” Candace-“I see the light and I see the turn lanes. Oh God, which lane do I get in!! Oh, I see the straight one. Do I go straight?” Me- “Yes (good Lord, how many times must I say it!!!). Go straight and do not turn until you get to 360. You will go right.” Candace –(I am having to do all this talking in real time with her. With each new landmark, I had to reassure her to continue on. Time 1450). I see a light. Do I turn here? Chelsi, what is that road? Barton something. Oooo, there is a garage sale (she is losing focus. I must bring her back)” Me- “NO do not turn there, go straight!” Candace- “Ok, we are going through the light. Oh, look over there Chelsi, there is that exit we should have taken off Mopac (uhh, yea!). All the other cars are taking this other little road! Oh, I better get over!” Me-“ Yea, that goes to the mall! Get over now and go straight.” Candace-“(excitedly) I see a road. Chelsi what is that? 360? Yea!! And I go right?” Me- Yes, go right (time 1455). Again, Candace almost has to turn into the mall parking lot because she is in the turn only lane. I assure her to keep going straight until she comes to Bee Cave. I thought we were smooth sailing. Me-“Tell me exactly what your original directions said. Have Chelsi read them.” Chelsi-“183 to 360. Bee Cave road and take a left. 5656 Westlake on the left” Me- (in a very direct and slow manner) “When you get to Bee Cave, you are going to go RIGHT on it.” Candace- “Right? I thought left?” Me- “you are coming from the opposite direction, so you will go right.” Candace- “Ok, so right on Bee Cave and right to the doctor’s office?” Me- (I wanted to yell this out and laugh, but I said it calmly) “No, you will still go left off Bee Cave to the doctor’s office, but go RIGHT off 360 to Bee Cave.” (Time 1458). Candace-“ I see Bee Cave (she said with a relieved sigh). I am turning. Macaroni Grill? HEB?” Me- (with eyes rolling and the laugh inching off the end of my tongue) “Candace, you turned into the shopping center, turn around and get out.” She spent about 3 minutes trying to find her way out. She was turning here and there, going to and fro. I hope we never put her in a paper bag. Candace-“I am back to where I can get out now. I am turning onto Bee Cave now.” Me-“ Tell me the address again. Ok. Now I want Chelsi – NOT YOU- to look at the building numbers and find where you need to go.” Candace- “there it is!!!! There it is!!! Oh my God, we made it.” Me- “Call me BEFORE you get back onto Bee Cave and I will tell you how to get out of there.” She did call me and it turns out that she should have gone through Marble Falls because Bee CAVe road crosses 71 and it would have taken her directly to the doctor’s office. She called me later that day gratefull that I answered my phone. She said if I had not, she would have had a heart attack. I don’t think she was lying, either. Now I just pray that the MRI my niece has to get is at the Seton Burnet, because if it is in Austin, I will have to take off work to go get her and take here where she needs to go.

HEB Training Pants. Thanks for the Memories

November 17, 2009 I wanted to give you a personal letter on my experience with the HEB Training Pants. I have been using HEB diaper products for the past 5 years. We were pleased with their performance with my older child and used them with our youngest child. When potty training time came, I hoped my daughter would train as fast as my son did. We never got the privilege of using the HEB training pants with him because he trained in a weekend. I don’t know why all the experts say girls train faster than boys, because we are on the 4th package of training pants for her. She has teased us with potty training, acting all high and mighty on her potty, get us all excited about the prospect of no more diapers, and then just shatter the dream when we realize that she has to go through a whole PROCESS to train. I mean come on. I did not expect this to be a long drawn out THING. But, that girl was a handful from day one, why should this be different? When I realized that we were in full blown potty training, I slipped into my trendy purple velour jumpsuit (low rise, of course), pulled my hair back into a sleek high ponytail, painted on a nice rosy cheek, threw on my running shoes, put on my oversized sunglasses, waved goodbye to my happy suburban family, and excitedly drove my decked out mini van (oh yea, with all the bells and whistles) to the nearest HEB. As I strolled into the store, I could hear Stayin’ Alive playing in my head. I walked confidently to the beat toward the biggest money maker of the store, the diaper section (after the meat section of course. Texans love their meat). I weighed my options, less expensive HEB brand that has always done me right, or more expensive, probably the same quality, name brands? When I first saw the HEB Training Pants, excitement welled within me. It put my two favorite things together, Clifford the Big Red Dog AND ruffles. I never thought in my lifetime that someone would combine the two and create such fabulousness. I cannot put into words the excitement and pride I felt over the prospect of outfitting my daughter in such a fashionable training pant. Fashion is a big part of my life and I make sure that my family and I are always dressed to the nines. I believe that we should dress all the way down to our undergarments in something awesome. Because I believe that if we feel good from the innermost layer out- we will have a better outlook, feel better about ourselves, and people will know that we mean business about fashion. Those are the kind of important values I am trying to instill in my children. I felt that the Clifford the Red Dog ruffly training pants would further my fashion mission. After a couple of days using the training pants, my happiness quickly subsided. I found a flaw in your almost perfect design. The ruffles along leg hole openings turned out to be a problem. The ruffle was stiff, not soft and supple like I had envisioned. It rubbed against my daughter’s inner thighs, creating a weeping, red, open area. Unlike most women’s problem of inner thigh rub (ITR) due to weight gain, my daughter’s problem was not due to abnormally large thighs. She has normal toddler thighs, no excessive rolls like you see on some kids. She can wear normal toddler pants/shorts without incident or excessive tightness in the legs. It pains me to say this, but I think the most awesome, perfect, fashionable HEB Training Pants aren’t so. The super stiff, thigh rubbing ruffle is such a major flaw in your design, that I must (one lone tear slowly falling down cheek)………buy a BRAND NAME. I never thought I would have to do it, but I must. It pains me to break off this long term relationship with you. You have been so good to me. We had some great times together. You went through good times (#1) and bad (#2) with my kids and I. I know you will research the problem and correct it, but for us- it will be too late. By the time the new design reaches the shelves, I know (hope) that my daughter will be potty trained. Thank you for everything. Thanks for the memories.

Kindergarten Vampires

I admit it. I am scared of the dark at age 34. I am scared of monsters in my closet, scared of something reaching up and out the toilet when I am peeing in the middle of the night, scared of zombie children/babies- pretty much anything a typical 5-9 year old fears. I know this irrational fear that has followed me my whole life is thanks to my father and older cousins and friends. I can remember at about age 4 or 5, sitting in our trashy single wide trailer in Odessa, Texas with my father watching a vampire movie late at night. I remember all the lights being out, with only the TV glow illuminating the room. It was about a young boy who became a vampire. The only part that I remember that still haunts me to this day was the younger brother who woke up to tapping on his window (let me tell, you I am scared right now. My heart is beating faster. I am on the second story of my own house and am about to abandon this blog now because I am scared being up here in the dark) and when he opened the curtains his vampire brother was floating outside. Good Lord, I am scared now!!! So, thanks, Dad, for thinking a 5 year old could handle that! I had older cousins that would tell me the Bloody Mary story every summer. They had one of those old creaky houses in the slums of San Angelo. I just knew I was going to die there. I remember being at one of my mom's friend's house and they had kids around my age and older. They kept talking about hands that might reach out of the walls and grab me. I can still feel that uneasiness where you cannot relax. I was about 7 when that happened. I know all of that early trauma scarred me for life. I am trying to be very careful with what my kids watch and what they believe. However, I found out my attempts were failing one night when Ray was gone. So, my son has started refusing to turn the bathroom light on by himself. He always wants us to do it now. The bathroom that he has a problem with is right off the living room (what a stupid place for a bathroom) and you can see into it from one of our chairs when the door is open (who designed this house?). Well, this night when Ray was gone, my son could not be coaxed to turn the light on by himself. He would walk over, glance around the corner into the laundry room (another joke of a room. If only I had known that a big laundry room was important before I bought this house), pause, and then sprint back to me. After he slammed the laundry room door shut and did the walk, glance, pause sprint routing about three times, I decided that in order to quit getting interrupted during Celebrity Rehab, I would turn the light on for him. So, he does his business and I start trying to find out why he was so scared. He finally told me that there was something in the laundry room (again, my heart rate is going up now). As soon as he said this, I could feel my chest tighten with fear. I calmly asked him what was in there. He said, it was a little thing that had big ears and big feet. I started to breathe more rapidly when he said that. I imagined some sort of Gremlin (capitalized because it was from the movie Gremlins). I imagined it attacking me as soon as the door cracked. Perhaps it would reach it's bony little Gremlin arms with its long creaky fingers through the small crack in the door and grab my ankle. Perhaps, like on Pet Semetery, it would take a razor blade like evil zombie kid (Gage) and slice my achilles tendon in half. Perhaps it would jump out of the door and attack my face like The Blob. With all of this running through my head, I managed to blurt out crap like, "There is nothing scary in our house. You are safe here. There is nothing in there. Come on and we will look." With my son on my heels, I bravely strode to the laundry room door. Though not really in slow motion, I imagined the my hand moving as if through honey toward the knob. I heard intensity building scary music in my head that would more than likely culminate in a loud crash as I was attacked by the monster/Gremlin/vampire/zombie. I opened the door and thankfully I lived. My son pointed at his monster, and it was a paint can on the floor with a pair of my husband's shoes perched appropriately in front of it. That is what is all came down to. Us leaving our crap in the floor (once again).